Are you in a relationship with someone you have a soul connection with but you feel increasingly lonely, disconnected and unappreciated?

Do you question whether your relationship struggles should feel this hard?

The good news is: Nothing has gone wrong. It's perfectly normal for relationships to challenge us at our core. It's perfectly normal to have challenges in your sex life. Everybody has them! We just don't talk about it openly. (Apart from places like this one. :-) 

The not-so-good news is: In order to move through these challenges you'll have to bring all your courage and willpower to the table and face your greatest fears.


"The price is high. The reward is great." - Maya Angelou

This 3 months coaching program will help you to

  • Face your fears with grace, humility and dignity

    Get clarity about what you truly want to give and what you want to receive and then dare to claim it. You will be hand-held through the process, as you are learning to show up for yourself and take care of yourself as well as the relationship.

  • Practice growth through new sexual experiences

    Sex is an amazing tool for creating the relationship you really want to live in. If you have felt blocked, scared or ashamed because of sexual challenges, this is the time for honest and open conversations and bringing it back to the basics.

  • Heal past wounds and increase intimacy, connection & Love

    Based on your core values, you will create your individual soulship map that will increase intimacy in your everyday-, and in your sex life throughout the rest of your relationship. Additionally, you will be guided through a set of universal, foundational values essential to heal love.

Who is this for

If you can say yes to one or more statements in the checklist, this course has been designed for you

  • Couples who want to bring out the best in each other and find ways to make this work

  • Couples who want to walk each other home

  • Couples who feel increasingly disconnected and have 'grown' apart

  • Couples who want to solve sexual challenges, frustration and lack of trust in their sex life

  • Couples who want to have a more meaningful experience of pleasure, sensuality and sexual ecstasy that takes you beyond current limitations

  • Couples who want to explore a more open way of relating but are unsure about how to do that in a way both partners feel secure, safe and loved

  • You want to know yourself deeply and understand the bigger purpose of your soul's meeting each other

  • Couples who want to recover from betrayal and heart-break

  • Couples who struggle with codependency and addictive behaviours that increasingly leads to alienation from one-another

  • Couples who want to make the world a better place and be part of creating the world that your heart knows is possible

I have no doubt that the relationship you dream of is possible.

The problem is that most of us don't ask for what we really want because we are terrified of who we would have to become to get it.


I never knew whom to follow in regards to relationship advice, which is why I have studied a broad spectrum of different practices, from tantra to systemic constellations and relationship therapy. One thing I have learned over the years is that there are as many opinions about what makes a good relationship as they are relationship therapists and coaches.

However, they all have something in common: Love as an embodied practice. 

I specialize in supporting couples to create their own personal relationship map to bring each of you 'Home to Love'. Through this deeply personal process, which is accompanied by many great teachings from all these teachers I am learning from, couples get to free themselves from 'how they should be' and instead begin to surrender to the relationship itself. This relationship is like a living being on its own and its interest lies in the growth of your souls through the process of relating to each other. 

No matter how 'unlovable' you feel right now, I want to congratulate you for having come this far. It is said that relationships are the fastest and most difficult way to enlightenment and many enlightened masters have chosen a path without partnership in this lifetime. To have the willingness to open your heart again even though it has been broken before is the most courageous act of the human experience. Because one thing is certain: the heart will break again. 

Once, my heart was so broken that I thought I'll never recover from it. For the first time since I was a child, I prayed to God to ask for help because there was nothing left to do. I made a promise to myself that I will not give up learning about love until I master it in case I should get back up again. And here I am, still learning.

Since then I have had to surrender to my choice many times and found myself saying 'no' to many relationships until I became the person I needed to be to have the relationship I want. 

Whether we do this with multiple partners or with the one we choose to journey with far, the baseline is the same: everything is possible once we fully surrender to the path we have chosen. 

What others say about coaching with me

The best sex we have ever had

Margret and Tomas

We have had some challenges in our sex life and with Bibi's guidance, we got to the core of it. The rituals we created helped us to discover a whole new world that we didn't know existed before. Our sex life has totally transformed.

Sophia and Rishke

We found the relationship form that is right for us

We had to let go of the relationship we wanted and realized that our love is more powerful without being lovers. With Bibi's mediation skills we healed a lot of the heartbreak we caused to one another and parted as friends. It feels like we have both gained more than we lost.

Ricky and James

We are in love again

Bibi's capacity to hold space for really challenging conflict and misunderstandings to surface is enormous. We felt really well held and supported. What we have learnt about each other and how we both want to be loved, has helped us to open our hearts again and that is priceless.

To create this world, we need to remember, learn, understand, practice and experience Love.

So how and where did you learn how to love?


Where we have learnt what love is in the past 

Most of us have learnt how to love from our parents and they have learnt it from their parents, and so on. This information about what love is was infused with war and collective trauma. 

It was also infused with religion and dogma with the greatest, most damaging dogmas being the separation between nature and human, and the separation of masculine and feminine.

The following curriculum is the result of training with a broad number of teachers. 

Over the past 5 years, I have:

- Studied Authentic Relating and better ways to communicate with ART International (Jason Digges, Ryel Kestano) 

- Studied Embodied Intimacy (Kendra Cunov) 

- Studied the Cross, an archetypal map of mascline and feminine as aspects of one soul based on transhimalayan esoterics (Takh'i Dhyandeepa)

- Studied Systemic and Family Constellations at the CSC 

- Trained in Neo-tantric practices and Sacred Sexuality (Takh'i Dhyandeepa)

- Trained as a Priestess in a 6-weeks Temple Training on the foundations of a new culture (Bruce Lyon and Takh'i Dhyandeepa) 

- Held several retreats with a focus on increasing love and connection, spirituality and nature, ritual, shadow work, and purpose 

- Created a Map for Conscious Relationship and Sex Rituals based on Ken Wilber's Integral Theory 

- Trained in Emotional Release Technique (ERT), Shadow Work (Lorna Gabriel) and Grief Coaching (Rose Diamond)

- Studied literature and online-content created by Ester Perel (Mating in Captivity), David Schnarch (Passionate Marriage), David Deida (Enlightened Sex and others), Alison Armstrong (The Queens Code, and others), Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá (Sex at Dawn), Barbara Carrellas (Urban Tantra), Margo Anand (The Art of Sexual Ecstasy) and many more




 


The themes we will implement in your relationship over 12 weeks:

Communication, Eros & Sexuality, Purpose, Clarity, Truth, Embodiment, Appreciation, Polarity, Healing, Community, Trust , Forgiveness, Peace, Love, Interconnction, Differentiation, Secure Attachment, The Soul of the Relationship, and How to Become aLearning Couple



Course curriculum

  • 1

    W 1 Communication - Value: Clarity

    • Communication

    • Creating a container, setting an intention and creating a commitment ritual

    • Value of the week: Clarity

    • Relationship in-take form

    • Your Personal Relationship Ritual Map Simple
  • 2

    W 2 Communication - Value: Embodiment

    • Embodiment as a key foundation for differentiation - Self-Regulation & Minimizing Activation

    • Embodiment Practices
  • 3

    W 3 Communication - Value: Love

    • Value of the week: From Conflict to Love

    • How to communicate through conflict

  • 4

    W 4 Communication - Value: Appreciation

    • Different practices for how to appreciate each other more
  • 5

    W 5 Purpose - Value: Secure Attachment

    • Value of the month: Purpose

    • Overview of the Attachment Styles

    • Avoidant Attachment Style

    • Anxious Attachment Style

    • Fearful Avoidant - Disorganized Attachment Style

    • Secure Attachment Style

  • 6

    W 6 Purpose - Value: Interconnection

    • Interconnection

  • 7

    W 7 Purpose - Value: Healing and Community

    • Healing Patriarchy

    • Community
  • 8

    W 8 Purpose - Value: Soul

    • Value of the week: Soul

  • 9

    W 9 Eros & Sexuality - Value: Trust

    • Eros and value of the week: Trust as a foundation for a healthy relationship and blissful sex

    • Embodiment Practice
  • 10

    W 10 Eros & Sexuality - Value: Truth

    • Value of the week: Truth and Differentiation

  • 11

    W 11 Eros & Sexuality - Value: Polarities

    • Discovering the Archetypes

    • The Light Masculine

    • The Light Feminine

    • The Dark Masculine

    • The Dark Feminine

    • How to Use Polarities

  • 12

    W 12 Eros & Sex: Value: Learning

    • Value of the week: Learning

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What's included in the course

  • 12 Weekly learning & practice videos

    These will be based on learning about communication, eros & sexuality, and love.

  • Guidance on creating your personal relationship agreements

    You will receive in-depth guidance in creating a roadmap that will carry you long beyond this coaching training.

  • Embodiment Practices that will assist you in your journey

    ... immediately and for the rest of your life

  • Access to a community of likeminded couples

    You will get access to a facebook community full of people who are learning with you. So that you can hold each other accountable, give and receive support, share stories and ask questions.

Bonus material

On top of all the above you will receive

  • Access to my facebook community

    With monthly guest speakers, and wisdom nuggets as well as other people who share your path of using relationships as a path of spiritual awakening.

  • Tantric rituals

    The more you can claim yourself, the better you get at claiming each other. I will share tantric rituals that will enhance your sex life with yourself and with each other.

  • Life-time Access To My Boundary Course

    As sometimes boundary setting can be hard, it's key to know how to get better at setting and holding them. This is why you get FREE access to my boundary course for 32 weeks.

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Our fears are often what our souls longs for the most. The fears we are not facing become the limitations of our soul's fullest expression...

Our western society doesn't reward us for needing help. Having needs is a sign of weakness. In my experience, admitting that I don't know what to do and asking others for help, is a sign of strength. Are you strong enough to face your fears?
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About Bibi

Bibi Gratzer’s essence lies in bringing divinity into the experience of the body. For her, divinity is a direct experience of the interconnectedness of all life - visible through synchronicity and feelable through bliss and euphoria and openness. She is a Relationship and Sex Coach, working with couples and individuals. She brings vast experience and a great amount of tools. Trainings: She is a trained Priestess, working with Temple Arts and the Sacred Union of Masculine and Feminine. She is also trained in Systemic Constellations, Authentic Relating and Circling, Personal and Collective Grief Transformation, and archetypal shadow work. She has an MSc in Ecology. She is a facilitator on the Authentic Revolution Platform and a collaborative project manager for the CSC – the Center for Systemic Constellations, in London.

FAQ

  • What if my partner is not up for it but I am?

    Ask yourself first of all if this a pattern that is playing out frequently in your relationship. Is your partner holding you back? Do you often feel unheard and unseen? Are your needs and desires equally important? Then I would invite a conversation with your partner in which you find out 1. Why exactly your partner has resistance. Invite curiosity instead of judgment. 2. Share how important this is to you and why it is important 3. How you would feel if they would provide you with the support you need; If your partner still feels resistant, please don't get discouraged. I also offer coaching for individuals and it sounds like you would need it. Please email me at [email protected] to inquire for an indiviual coaching session.

  • What if I am not sure if this is worth my financial investment?

    I get that investing in yourself can be difficult. In my experience, it's been far easier to invest in an object, travel, or education than investing in relationship coaching. Imagine, however, that money is an expression of love. With this new understanding, I invite you to take a moment and answer these three questions: 1. If money was an expression of love, how much do you love to be in a relationship that feels good to you? 2. If this was the last year of your life, and your mission in this life was to be the best person that you can be, how important is it for you to learn how to have more meaningful, loving relationships for the rest of this year? 3. What is the worst that could happen in case you choose to make that investment? Would that be worst than not changing? I hope these questions help you to make a grounded decision that is 'Right' for you. In case you are absolutely certain that this initiation is for you, but you struggle to make the full investment, there are partially funded scholarships available.

  • I am afraid we are going to break up if we commit. Shall we still do this?.

    Inevitably, there are no guarantees. The only constant is change. You will only break up if this is how both of your souls grow better apart. It is not up to you. All you can do is to be in service of the Love between you both and let Love decide what's best for you. Often, you will understand it in hindsight. Having said that, most couples actually don't want to break up, they want to stay together. because they love each other. This program has been created in a way that it creates a deeper understanding of each other and supports you on a really holistic level to support you both in the best ways possible.

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For the price of $97 you get all the above and so much more

Our western society doesn't reward us for needing help. Having needs is a sign of weakness. In my experience, admitting that I don't know what to do and asking others for help, is a sign of strength. Are you strong enough to face your fears?
Yes, let me join