Do you long for finding true love and sexual fulfillment?

Whether you are dating the ‘wrong’ kind of people, you are chronically single, or you are just recovering from a broken heart and don’t want to repeat the same mistakes - MAKE 2022 THE YEAR YOU MEET TRUE LOVE.

What's waiting for you on the other side

  • Embody your worth

    By remembering your divinity, falling in love with yourself, and learning to trust yourself deeply, you will expand your relationship with the universe and your destiny as a soul.

  • Feeling whole

    Change the core of your relational dynamics by becoming intimate with your inner man and your inner woman, and each of their pains, longings and shadows (our blindspots).

  • Committing to yourself

    It doesn't matter whom you choose as long as you are committing to yourself. The 'Right Relationship' will show up or take shape in the near future. Guaranteed.

Who is this for

If you can say yes to one or more statements in the checklist, this course has been designed for you

  • You have settled for scraps in your relationships and you are done getting in your own way

  • You find yourself single and you are keen on taking responsibility for why that is (it's not your fault, but your responsibility)

  • You can't let go of a connection that you know isn’t what you want, because you are afraid of being alone

  • You have recently come out of a relationship and you don't want to relate to a partner in the same way any more

  • Your boundaries haven't been great, you often find yourself pleasing others or performing out of fear of being alone

  • You (secretly) believe that you are 'failing' without having achieved a specific kind of relationship

  • You have a hunch that the 'traditional' path is not for you and you have a desire to explore new ways of relating - polyamory, conscious non-monogamy, bisexuality, etc.

  • You want to heal the past but you haven't allowed yourself enough time and space for that

  • You have a deep longing for a conscious relationship and not living it hurts

  • You’ve written countless Relationship Manifestos or Relationship Vision Boards but none of them are manifesting

I didn't believe the relationship I wanted was possible

Result: I constantly pushed to make a relationship happen externally rather than having the relationship I truly wanted with myself first


He was the 6th man I had dated over a period of 2 years. I had also started dating women because I  am bisexual and wanted to be open to all opportunities. I was desperately longing for a relationship and yet no matter how much I worked on myself, I kept on attracting people that weren’t 'Right'. 

My last relationship was with someone who looked like a perfect match on paper. We had lots of common interests, a similar worldview, and a common vision for the future. We both were passionate about relationships and psycho-spiritual work. We were in a relationship even though my intuitive heart instantly knew that we weren’t right for each other. And my body knew, too. I ignored this inner voice because I wanted it to work for both of us. For months we spiraled downwards into a depressed relationship full of struggle and fighting with little appreciation for the people that we were underneath our projections. One day I realized that I had done it again: I wanted to be loved so badly that I became ignorant towards the truth of my heart and my body. I had forgotten once again to choose myself first. 

I decided that I was done with the same old pattern that had been playing out for years. And I was done with taking baby steps. Something big had to change. I made a commitment to myself that I’d rather be alone for the rest of my life and do whatever it takes to be happy than to be with a partner whom I wasn’t happy with. I was done with forcing myself into a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. 

Then I entered a 6 months-long diet from any kind of lovers, both men, and women. Instead, I devoted my time to creating a life that I loved to be in. I became the partner I had always wanted to be with. And that changed my life: synchronistic events came out of nowhere. I discovered my soul purpose. I changed my relationship with money. And I met a partner with whom I have the best relationship that I have ever had. 

What others say about this course

Life-changing

Stephanie A.

This course was life-changing. The way I relate to people and to myself has totally shifted. I understand my past so much better, why things were the way they were and how not to repeat the same patterns. I have let go of so much. I have more trust in myself and in my future choices.

A much needed reset

David B.

Bibi has held us with so much care. I really appreciated her wisdom and the creativity that drives this program. I certainly have learnt a lot about myself, and I am so glad I joined.

Deep insights into my own shadows

Stefanie H.

What I have been shown through this course is how powerless I am over my patterns. It's been really difficult to face some of the things I have learnt, but also really rewarding. I love that Bibi made the content available for a lifetime, so I can drop back in again and again.

Course curriculum

  • 1

    W 1 Container, Devotion and Commitment

    • Welcome video & Intention Ritual

    • How to Create Your Container

    • In-take form as a baseline to see where you are today

    • How To Create an MVR

    • Join the Community
  • 2

    W 2 Dark Masculine: Connecting with your power

    • Dark Masculine Archetype Overview

    • Embodiment Practice: Healthy Power

  • 3

    W 3 - Shadow work & Self-Sovereignty: Reclaim blindspots that might hurt others

    • Shadow Work Introduction

    • Archetype: Sovereign - Shadow: Child

    • Archetype: Warrior - Shadow: Victim

    • Archetype: Magician - Shadow: Saboteur

    • Archetype: Lover - Shadow: Prostitute

  • 4

    W 4 - The drama triangle and the victim-persecutor dynamic

    • How to live drama-free

    • Embodiment Practice
  • 5

    W 5 The Light Feminine

    • The Light Feminine

    • Healing the Mother Wound

  • 6

    W 6 - Light Feminine Shadow: People Pleasing and Codependency

    • The Art of Differentiation

    • The Connection Process

  • 7

    W 7 - The Family System

    • Creating systemic awareness for relationship dynamics in your family system
  • 8

    W 8 - The Dark Feminine

    • The Dark Feminine Overview

    • Learning how to feel

    • Embodiment Practice
  • 9

    W 9 - Attachment Styles

    • Overview

    • Avoidant Dismissive

    • Anxious - Preoccupied

    • Disorganized

    • Secure
  • 10

    W 10 - Shadow of the Dark Feminine

    • Surrender to the Dark

    • Sacred Longing
  • 11

    W 11 The Art of Self-Pleasure

    • Practices to increase pleasure
  • 12

    W 12 - The Light Masculine and the shadow

    • Healing The Father Wound
  • 13

    W 13 Meet Your Destiny as foundation for creating a healthy relationship

    • Integral Purpose

  • 14

    W 14 - Reunion of Masculine and Feminine

    • Sacred ritual to marry your inner couple
  • 15

    W 15 - Light Masculine: Clarity

    • Learn how the way you end something is where you will begin next time
  • 16

    W 16 - Happy endings and new beginnings

    • Learn how the way you end something is where you will begin next time
  • 17

    Recorded Group Calls

    • First Call 06/02

    • Opening Ceremony

What's this program all about?

This is a rite of passage into changing the way you relate by becoming your own best friend and lover first instead of looking for true love outside. For the first 3 months, you make a commitment to yourself to change the way you relate to others by setting boundaries that nourish you. This could mean, that you stop dating or having sex, or you put time limits on your current relationships and activities. In this time, you will dive deep into clearing past wounds, letting go of the past, and reconnecting with your body and your intuition. In month 4, you can choose to change your boundaries towards a higher relational and sexual activity, while you are supported by me and the community.

Why choose this program?

This program is designed for people who are ready to create a strong, securely attached bond with themselves - true love. It's not about restricting yourself but filling your life with joy, pleasure, and soul. Through this program you will embody the relationship you desire in the present moment. If you wonder why you are always attracting unavailable men, for example, it might be that your own inner masculine needs up-leveling so that you don't seek these qualities externally. From this place, you are not relating from lack, but from 'embodying it already'. Further, healthy relationships demand that we become really good at self-soothing, self-pleasuring, and claiming ourselves. So many of my clients struggle with this and then wonder why their relationships are codependent, and full of drama.

Are you ready to realize that you are the one you have been waiting for?

Warning: This is a rites of passage - which means that you will have to surrender parts of you that are scared.

Yes I am in

What's included in the course

  • 4 Group Coaching Weekends

    We'll meet on zoom once a month for a deep dive one-day immersion into each of the four different masculine and feminine archetypes, with relational practices and body rituals. Dates are: 3rd/4th of September; 8th/9th of October, 5th/6th of November, 3rd/4th of December.

  • 16 Teaching Modules

    Each Sunday for 16 weeks, you’ll receive a new video class and specific practices to apply the teachings. Easily access your course materials via your private Member Site.

  • 8 Hours of Individual Coaching

    Book a 2-hour long slot per month and receive personalized coaching from me around your relationship patterns.

  • Pot support

    You will be paired with other participants in groups of 2-4, to give each other additional support, and work through the material together. Pots are there for emergency situations, and even daily check-ins in difficult times.

  • A nurturing and supportive online community of all genders

    This is a gender-inclusive course because I believe in the healing of the masculine and feminine. We need separate men's and women's circles as much as we need places where we see each other in our vulnerability to discover each other's humanness and divinity.

  • Embodiment Practices that will assist you in your journey

    ... immediately and for the rest of your life

Guest Teachers

Guest Teachers will share some of their insights and work

Shanti Zimmermann

Shanit has a powerful transmission on boundaries. She is a Mentor In Maturity, Facilitating Skill-Sets of Responsibility, Care, Communication & Boundaries. She is the Creator, Founder and Mentor of "The Clarity of Boundaries", an online learning platform for learning about boundaries. She will share some of her enourmous wisdom with us.

Chris Bullzini

My partner Chris will be sharing about his one-year-long celibacy after the breakdown of his marriage; how he did it and what he got out of it. His celibacy was inspired by his practice of Vipassana meditation and his devotion to Ashtanga Yoga. He has been on a spiritual path for over 2 decades and is known for his world-class performances as high-wire walker and circus artist.

Celeste González

Celeste is a Priestess Mama, with a strong transmission of the Dark Feminine Archetype. She creates experiences with a focus on the body for a world filled with more love, sex & leadership.

Jon Eden Kahn

Jon holds spaces for the ceremony of our collective awakening to the majesty of what we truly are. He has co-founded AVATARA, a community for soul awakening. He gives beautiful transmissions on Soul Leadership and has 'translated' many of Bruce Lyon's transmissions from Master DK.

Sofia Sundari

Sofia has journeyed deep into the being of her own soul over many years before she created the Sundari Mystery Immersions, a tantric school for conscious relating. She is a Bestselling author of her own book 'Liberation into Orgasm' and has immense wisdom about how to attract true love, as well as the union between masculine and feminine.

ARE you IN? Join the 'Date Yourself To Destiny' Initiation NOW

It's a bit like abstinence - you are letting go of old relationship habits to win your freedom, trust and self-appreciation back

I discovered how precious I am during my celibate time; since then I have been holding that higher standard without compromising or suppressing parts of myself; I am choosing my soul over my relationship which creates a different, completely honest dynamic between my partner and me; Most importantly, however, am I able to bounce back from rejection and fear as I am safe within myself. Are you with me?
Yes, I am in

FAQ

  • Do I really have to give up dating and sex? Why?

    In the end, you have to answer those questions for yourself. In this initiation, we’ll spend two full weeks creating each person’s unique container and agreements, because it’s so personal. However, I make a very strong recommendation that you give up all dating, sex and romantic relationships (that includes messaging your ex!). The reason is that in order to truly create something new, you must truly let go of old habits, but not what you are really longing for. Having an insight and actually making different choices are two very different things! What I’ve seen time and time again is that people have insights around how they want to relate to dating and sex differently, but still keep behaving in ways that are counter to that insight. This initiation is a time to do things differently. Bibi's coaching and the community will support you.

  • Can I spend time with my other-sex friends?

    You and you alone choose where the line is. The aim of the course is to become more in tune with your motives and your intentions. I recommend lowering contact with other sex-friends / friends you are attracted to and more general, people you can't stop thinking about.

  • What happens if I sign up before September?

    If you are ready to start now, there will be two bonus calls, one in July and one in August plus the community platform. If you wish, you can also use some of your individual coaching hours before the official start in September.

  • I’m in a transition within my partnership, because of some 'toxic patterns', is this for me?

    Absolutely! This could be the perfect container to hold you during this time. Any transition especially changes in our relationships, are like mini-death experiences. A program with a community could be exactly the right place to hold you.

  • I’m not looking for a relationship right now – I’m looking for clarity around what I can ask for from a partner and what I need to be able to source elsewhere….is this for me?

    This is at the core of this initiation. You will get a lot of input to help you get clarity, stop doubting yourself, make decisions and commitments and choose the path that feels most aligned for you.

  • Can’t I just do this on my own? Why do I need to do your program?

    A community and a mentor are great ways to give yourself the support you need to create visible results. I have been abstinent on my own before, but I haven't had the results I had when I was guided, witnessed, and held. Relational transformation rarely happens after a solo journey.

  • When are the weekend calls? Times in GMT

    1st Weekend: Saturday and Sunday, September 3rd/4th 2nd Weekend: Saturday and Sunday, October 8th / 9th 3rd Weekend Saturday and Sunday, November 5th/6th 4th Weekend Saturday and Sunday, December 3rd/4th Each day we start at 9 am and end at 4 pm with a 1.5-hour-long lunch break

  • How many hours/week do I need to allocate for this?

    On average, we would recommend setting aside 1-3 hours per week for the videos and the pot calls, but this is a personal decision. Some people get enough by joining just the 4 weekends. Other people watch each week’s video a few times, take on daily rituals, and show up for all the live calls. Do what you need to do!

  • What if I’m not able to keep up with the content? Will I have access to it later?

    You are not behind and it’s not possible to be behind. This is your rite of passage. As you enter the container, whatever happens during that time will be in support of your intention. Trust the process. You will have lifetime access to the content.

About Bibi

Bibi Gratzer’s essence lies in bringing divinity into the experience of the body. For her, divinity is a direct experience of the interconnectedness of all life - visible through synchronicity and feelable through bliss and euphoria and openness. She is a Relationship and Sex Coach, working with couples and individuals. She brings vast experience and a great amount of tools. Trainings: She is a trained Priestess, working with Temple Arts and the Sacred Union of Masculine and Feminine. She is also trained in Systemic Constellations, Authentic Relating and Circling, Personal and Collective Grief Transformation, and archetypal shadow work. She has an MSc in Ecology. She is a facilitator on the Authentic Revolution Platform and a collaborative project manager for the CSC – the Center for Systemic Constellations, in London.

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About Money

Imagine your money was an expression of love

I get that investing in yourself can be difficult. In my experience, it's been far easier to invest in an object, travel, or even a plant medicine journey than investing in relationship coaching.

I invite you to take a moment and answer these three questions: 

1. If money was an expression of love, how much would you love to stop settling for less and create the relationship you want? 

2. If this was the last year of your life, and your mission in this life was to love well, how important is it for you to learn how to love yourself and have more meaningful, loving relationships for the rest of this year?

3. What is the worst that could happen in case you choose to make that investment? Would that be worst than not changing?

I hope these questions help you to make a grounded decision that is 'Right' for you. 

In case you are absolutely certain that this initiation is for you, but you struggle to make the full investment, there are 3 partially funded scholarships available. 

You can apply here.